Since some of you have been asking us about what to write on wedding vows, we’re more than happy to share the tips and tricks on how to write your own wedding vows!
Bear in mind, a wedding vow is one of the most important elements in your wedding, because it will be your mission statement in the marriage that stays with you and your partner for the rest of your life. As you will not give a random mission statement for your company/ job, it also applies the same to your wedding vow.
So, the one million dollar question is.. What should we write? We will divide it into 3 parts: the Appreciation, the Declaration of Love, and finally the Promises.
The Appreciation First, you can address some context to your guests by giving your partner some appreciation relating to the background of your relationship, routines, unique events, or what your partner means to you. This will give a better understanding of the reason behind the promises.
Here are some questions to help you in constructing “The Appreciation” paragraph: - What are the things that you appreciate the most about your partner? - What makes you fall in love with your partner? - What inspires you about your partner? - How does your partner help you get through hard times?
The Declaration of Love Then, let’s continue by saying things you love about your partner. For example: - What about this person has led you to promise forever? - When did you realize you were in love? - What do you miss when you’re apart from each other?
Thinking about these things will help you in writing down your thoughts and feelings together. You don’t need to write every single thing - just focus on a few items that are really meaningful or interesting to brag about! The Promises Keep it REAL! Make promises that are realistic and do-able for you. - On some aspects you can avoid ‘always’ and try to replace it with ‘try to always’, as we all know that we won't be able to always keep our best state throughout our marriage life. - Make it personal - do not copy paste some beautiful quote or promise from the internet, just create it from the very bottom of your heart. - Don’t forget to add that you’ll be there even when times get rough and always be faithful to them. This is a must! - Wrap your vow up with a look towards the future. Again, you should be specific on a few things and don’t let your guests hear an endless list of promises.
Ps. Avoid anything too personal/ embarrassing and over-promised that will make your guests cringe! You can also have a friend read through your vows and make sure you don’t miss anything ;) PPs. Write and keep your vows in a memorable place! Our personalised vow kit can be a lovely way to create a keepsake from these meaningful, once in a lifetime words. You can pick your own color, theme, pattern or paper/ fabric type, you name it!
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